Win ~ Win

Do you want to know a secret?  If you’re looking for a win ~ win situation, I have one for you.

Today I went grocery shopping, as I entered the checkout line a gentleman walked in line behind me.  I was next, but all he had were three bouquets of flowers.  I asked him if he would like to go ahead of me and he said oh thank you that is very kind of you, I said you’re welcome.

When the cashier rang up the total and told him the amount, he said these are on sale, two for $12, she asked do you have your card (my grocery store has it’s own card that gives you discounts off items).  Oh, you need your card? he asked, at that moment I handed the cashier mine, they let you do that.  Once more the man looked at me and said wow, again, thank you very much, you are so kind.  These days I turn into a blubbering soul easily because of menopause and as I’m choking back the tears, every fiber of my being was saying get a grip! don’t start crying!  I looked him right in the eyes (I say this because I am practicing to look at people when I speak with them rather than avert my eyes) and said you are most welcome, besides who can resist a man with flowers!  The lady behind me laughed.

He said it was his mother’s 91st birthday.  Now I’m really trying not to cry and say, oh wow, wish her a very happy birthday (like she knows me or something).  He said he would.

Win~Win

As he finished his transaction he turned once more to me and said thank you again for your kindness and I wish you a wonderful day!  Well that was all I needed to hear, I barely said thank you without my voice cracking.  As I was bagging my groceries, my nose was running so much and I had no tissues, just my hand.  I felt like all eyes could see my nose running down my face and all over my hands.  The stress of it all brought on one of my beloved hot flashes, which just made my nose run even more freely.  I could not bag my groceries fast enough!!

I left there with the biggest smile on my face though…I felt so elated that I had made someone’s day!  So here’s the win ~ win, do something nice for someone else, no matter how small the gesture, and boy oh boy will you feel like a million bucks!  You will probably derive more joy out of what you did for them than the person receiving your generosity.

So I say, let’s all be more selfish by doing for others, we’ll feel so pleased, proud and happy with ourselves.

Is there anything I can do for you?  😉

xo

(c) onceuponahotflash, 2016

61 thoughts on “Win ~ Win

  1. Floating Speck

    Hi Deb! What a great post and you are such an awesome kind lady!🌸🌸🌸🌸

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  2. This is so totally great. I have to link you with this blogger: https://mariegriffith.me/2015/12/30/next/

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    • Wow what a great post that is!! Thank you for linking it…and thank you for your kind words and thoughtfulness! I’m Next One Thinker and proud of it…some days I get frustrated because others aren’t and I start to feel like why do I always have to blah blah blah…and then I remember what Joel Osteen says..because I’m a person of excellence…and that makes me feel proud about myself, as we all should!! xo

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  3. What a sweet story! He was buying the flowers for his 91 year old mother. That is so sweet! I’m sure he was very grateful to you, Deb. Not many people do things like that anymore. You are right, we all need to start doing nice things for others. ❤ ❤ ❤

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  4. Oh, what a nice thing to do. I would have told him to wish his mom happy birthday, too!

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  5. Great story. Thank your sharing and challenging others to spread some kindness!!

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  6. Deb, I must be going through menopause too because I read your post with tears streaming down my face. Isn’t it amazing how the smallest act of kindness can impact someone and how it can make us feel. You no doubt absolutely made his day, as well as your own. I loved this. xo

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    • Thanks Miriam. I love to read your words, they always make me say…awww. It really is amazing how great you feel when you know you have truly touched someone else and how much they appreciated you! It has made my day…I have been feeling on top of the world ever since. I knew I had to share so that others could try it and see…and soon if we are all doing things for others how great the world will be!! Has your body temperature shot up to 1000 degrees in 5 seconds flat yet? That’s a big give away you’re going thru menopause too…yikes!! xo

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    • Yes it has and the tears are streaming again. I’m on a constant emotional roller coaster. But at least I know I’m not on it alone. xo

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    • Oh boy I know exactly how you feel, not you are not alone..here, here’s a tissue!! xo

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    • Thanks Deb. I need one, constantly!

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  7. Deb, what a great story. Love that you paid it forward. Kindness is catching on.

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  8. Wonderful post. Too often people forget that it costs nothing to be polite, give a compliment, extend a helping hand, and the rewards can be so great. I bet you’re still smiling.

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  9. So glad to know I’m not the only one who gets all choked up over just about anything! My co-worker shows no mercy in mocking me for it, but I know better than to say, “hey, it’s menopause!” That would make it worse!

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    • Oh no you’re not alone. I could watch a piece of dust float to the floor and the emotions well up on how graceful it fell…Lol!! Where I work almost all of us are going through or have been through menopause. The owners are father and son and they tip toe around us ladies sometimes…hee hee. The father has been exposed to it from his wife but the son is still learning of it’s dynamics. So we are all very sympathetic to each other and we fan each other often when the hot flashes hit!! HA! 🙂

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  10. A lovely story. Its so nice to hear of kindnesses being appreciated.

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  11. Deb, you’re just a little ray of sunshine. Why can’t there be more like you? You’ve already showed me so much kindness with your messages about my sweet friend Rhonnie and your experience with migraines. You’re such a giver and I love that about you. So wish you lived here in Atlanta so that I could buy your lunch one day. Hugs my sweet friend!

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  12. Vera Bradley makes very soft, pretty bags and accessories. My wife is fond of them. They had sent emails to their routine customers offering a very good sale. The store was crowded, and the line was long. Amidst the women (I was in the mall because my wheelchair was in the way) was a nicely dressed gentleman buying bags for his wife. When he reached the register they told him he was supposed to have an email. He offered to pay full price, but they charged him the sale price. Kindness is classy.

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    • Oh yes I am very familiar with Vera Bradley, beautiful bags. My co-worker has several of them and wallets too! How wonderful of both him to buy them for his wife and for the store to allow him the sale price. Yes it is!! And it’s so easy too….. 🙂 Thanks for sharing such a positive story!! I love happy endings!

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  13. I live by that principle every day.

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  14. Deb, I intend to devote my day to following your advice. Not only did you warm this man’s heart, but you warmed yourself, too. I am well past menopause and still cry at beautiful things at the drop of a hat. And I used to be so tough! In answer to your question – you already are doing nice things for me. Your comments on my posts are much appreciated. Clare

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    • Awww, I bet you have the most fabulous, happy day! I really did, I smiled all weekend long. Oh no, so the crying won’t stop huh…well I always was a softie but now it’s a softie on steroids!!! Really, I used to cry when they would guess the puzzle on Wheel of Fortune, now I cry if they get a letter!! You are such a gracious, warm person, thank you for your kind words. xo I’ll be by with more comments too. 🙂

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    • I love your kind-hearted comments and agree about how easily the tears can fall. Today was very fulfilling and so I’m thinking I’ll repeat it tomorrow. Thanks, Deb.

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    • Thank you so much! So glad you’re day was fulfilling and since you’re thinking of repeating it tomorrow, I’ve decided to join you!! You’re welcome!! 🙂

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  15. What a great story. Tender AND funny! Thanks for sharing!

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  16. It’s amazing the joy that comes from giving unexpected love. I lean toward being a cryer myself. When I do something like that it’s my own proof that love exists in the world and I am part of it. Loved the story.

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    • It truly is, it’s the most wonderful feeling and experience. Oh I love your description. Thank you. 🙂

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    • I loved your story! It got me thinking about tears. I heard something a week ago about how all tears are different… ie, tears of pain, joy have a different chemical makeup. So, I’m going to have to follow that rabbit trail. LOL

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    • Wow that’s fascinating…but I can understand it. If you think about it different chemicals are released in our bodies given different situations like endorphins from exercising. I look forward to read what you find out. If you don’t do a post about it, let me know your findings… 🙂

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  17. Our pastor was teaching about kindness (Fruit of the Spirit) today and was challenging us to spread kindness and be salt and light. As he gave illustrations I was trying to not sniff and cry. I understand about the crying…..sometimes people just think it is allergies and I let them think that :). Thank you so much for showing how kindness blesses the giver and receiver!

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    • Oh thank you for your kind words. It is so true and I have just been blessed by generosity that I was unaware of existed and am so grateful to have found. I now want to volunteer to help where I can with either the church delivering meals on weekends or helping the council on aging center. I currently need their help with my mother and did not realize how much they can do! I understand letting people think you have allergies. They probably think I should get allergy shots!! 😉

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