Win ~ Win

Do you want to know a secret?  If you’re looking for a win ~ win situation, I have one for you.

Today I went grocery shopping, as I entered the checkout line a gentleman walked in line behind me.  I was next, but all he had were three bouquets of flowers.  I asked him if he would like to go ahead of me and he said oh thank you that is very kind of you, I said you’re welcome.

When the cashier rang up the total and told him the amount, he said these are on sale, two for $12, she asked do you have your card (my grocery store has it’s own card that gives you discounts off items).  Oh, you need your card? he asked, at that moment I handed the cashier mine, they let you do that.  Once more the man looked at me and said wow, again, thank you very much, you are so kind.  These days I turn into a blubbering soul easily because of menopause and as I’m choking back the tears, every fiber of my being was saying get a grip! don’t start crying!  I looked him right in the eyes (I say this because I am practicing to look at people when I speak with them rather than avert my eyes) and said you are most welcome, besides who can resist a man with flowers!  The lady behind me laughed.

He said it was his mother’s 91st birthday.  Now I’m really trying not to cry and say, oh wow, wish her a very happy birthday (like she knows me or something).  He said he would.


As he finished his transaction he turned once more to me and said thank you again for your kindness and I wish you a wonderful day!  Well that was all I needed to hear, I barely said thank you without my voice cracking.  As I was bagging my groceries, my nose was running so much and I had no tissues, just my hand.  I felt like all eyes could see my nose running down my face and all over my hands.  The stress of it all brought on one of my beloved hot flashes, which just made my nose run even more freely.  I could not bag my groceries fast enough!!

I left there with the biggest smile on my face though…I felt so elated that I had made someone’s day!  So here’s the win ~ win, do something nice for someone else, no matter how small the gesture, and boy oh boy will you feel like a million bucks!  You will probably derive more joy out of what you did for them than the person receiving your generosity.

So I say, let’s all be more selfish by doing for others, we’ll feel so pleased, proud and happy with ourselves.

Is there anything I can do for you?  😉


(c) onceuponahotflash, 2016