Win ~ Win

Do you want to know a secret?  If you’re looking for a win ~ win situation, I have one for you.

Today I went grocery shopping, as I entered the checkout line a gentleman walked in line behind me.  I was next, but all he had were three bouquets of flowers.  I asked him if he would like to go ahead of me and he said oh thank you that is very kind of you, I said you’re welcome.

When the cashier rang up the total and told him the amount, he said these are on sale, two for $12, she asked do you have your card (my grocery store has it’s own card that gives you discounts off items).  Oh, you need your card? he asked, at that moment I handed the cashier mine, they let you do that.  Once more the man looked at me and said wow, again, thank you very much, you are so kind.  These days I turn into a blubbering soul easily because of menopause and as I’m choking back the tears, every fiber of my being was saying get a grip! don’t start crying!  I looked him right in the eyes (I say this because I am practicing to look at people when I speak with them rather than avert my eyes) and said you are most welcome, besides who can resist a man with flowers!  The lady behind me laughed.

He said it was his mother’s 91st birthday.  Now I’m really trying not to cry and say, oh wow, wish her a very happy birthday (like she knows me or something).  He said he would.

Win~Win

As he finished his transaction he turned once more to me and said thank you again for your kindness and I wish you a wonderful day!  Well that was all I needed to hear, I barely said thank you without my voice cracking.  As I was bagging my groceries, my nose was running so much and I had no tissues, just my hand.  I felt like all eyes could see my nose running down my face and all over my hands.  The stress of it all brought on one of my beloved hot flashes, which just made my nose run even more freely.  I could not bag my groceries fast enough!!

I left there with the biggest smile on my face though…I felt so elated that I had made someone’s day!  So here’s the win ~ win, do something nice for someone else, no matter how small the gesture, and boy oh boy will you feel like a million bucks!  You will probably derive more joy out of what you did for them than the person receiving your generosity.

So I say, let’s all be more selfish by doing for others, we’ll feel so pleased, proud and happy with ourselves.

Is there anything I can do for you?  😉

xo

(c) onceuponahotflash, 2016

Three Day Quote Challenge – Day 3

Welcome to Day Three of the Three Day Quote Challenge!!  I have been selected to participate by my very sweet and dear friend Xara Nahara.  I just love her name!  When I first met Xara I thought she was from the Middle East, with such an exotic name.  She is not, however, she is still quite exotic in my opinion.  I love her sense of humor, her honesty and straight-forwardness!!  Thank you Xara!!  Please do visit her site.

Here are the Rules:

  • Thank the person who nominated you.
  • Post a Quote for 3 consecutive days
  • Nominate 3 bloggers each day

I thought I would have some fun with this and post “quotes” about menopause.  For those of you sharing this journey with me, for those who have already traveled through it and for those of you who are “looking” forward to it, this is for you!!!  Enjoy…

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EMBRACE YOUR ZEST!!!

Today’s nominees are:

Shiva
Kate
Barb

If you have the time and would like to join in the fun, we would love to read your quotes.  There is no time frame involved, post when you are able!!  If you are unable to participate, no worries!  🙂

Thanks,
Deb

xo

(c) onceuponahotflash, 2016

Three Day Quote Challenge – Day 2

Welcome to Day Two of the Three Day Quote Challenge!!  I have been selected to participate by my very sweet and dear friend Xara Nahara.  I just love her name!  When I first met Xara I thought she was from the Middle East, with such an exotic name.  She is not, however, she is still quite exotic in my opinion.  I love her honesty and straight-forwardness!!  Thank you Xara!!  Please do visit her site.

Here are the Rules:

  • Thank the person who nominated you.
  • Post a Quote for 3 consecutive days
  • Nominate 3 bloggers each day

I thought I would have some fun with this and post “quotes” about menopause.  For those of you sharing this journey with me, for those who have already traveled through it and for those of you who are “looking” forward to it, this is for you!!!  Enjoy…

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Today’s nominees are:

Jackie O
Tony Burgess
Lynn

If you have the time and would like to join in the fun, we would love to read your quotes.  There is no time frame involved, post when you are able!!  If you are unable to participate, no worries!  🙂

Thanks,
Deb

xo

(c) onceuponahotflash, 2016

Hot Flash Mania!

I am a raving lunatic
Get the bleep away from me,
I’m having quite the hissy fit
Don’t make me count to three.

I’m vacuuming the house right now
I’m cleaning every stitch,
The sweat is beading off my brow
Here comes that Inner Bitch.

It’s bad enough I have to clean
But really must I Flash,
I’m so effin hot right now
What’s ok to smash?

My neck is sore, my arm is tired
I think I’m gonna cry,
Oh hurry and be done already
Why did I even try.

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That is it, I am done!
I’ve put it all away,
I’ll sit down now and regroup some
Oh, I might even play.

I’m cooling back to normal
My temper’s flaring down,
Actually I’m chilly
Why’s my sweater on the ground?

Was I really oh so angry?
Absurdly out of control?
And why is everyone hiding,
Hey, where did you all go?

I’m better now, it’s me again
Please don’t be afraid,
Come on now, step back in
I’ve put away the blade!

 😉

(c) onceuponahotflash, 2016

All Choked Up!!

Another side effect of menopause for me is getting all choked up while telling a story.

For example, I watched Taylor Swift’s Speak Now Tour on YouTube and at the end she sings Love Story.  She steps into what is supposed to look like Juliet’s balcony, it is attached to cables and it lifts her up.  She sings and floats around the concert hall above the crowd.  It is wicked cool to watch.  I can only imagine how exhilarating it must have felt to her to be above the crowd, going around the room in the air and singing.  It was amazing.

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I was describing this to my friend and I hardly got into the story when I’m all choked up, tears in my eyes, unable to say the words.  I try to gain control, continue on, speak a few more sentences and it happens again.  We always laugh about it but it’s crazy.  I’m not sad about it.  I guess what I’m feeling is such happiness for her and imagine just how overwhelmed and thrilled she must have felt.  Think about it, you’re floating above thousands of people, singing your heart out…how incredible is that!  Talk about living your dream…

But wait it gets better.  Last week I was interviewing a woman for a position we have open and I was explaining the job duties, the hours, vacation time, sick pay and then as I was starting to tell her we also have bereavement pay, I am suddenly choked up, again with tears in my eyes.  Ok, I say to myself, get a grip you cannot lose it during an interview.

Now because I’m stressing I bring on a hot flash, not only can I not speak, my face is turning red, I’m sweating all over and all I want to do is rip my clothes off!  I wonder if she could tell all this was going on?   I finally did explain that I’m menopausal and apologized for the mini-meltdown (literally) and we continued on.

I’ve noticed that whenever I suddenly get stressed about something, that is a definite hot flash trigger and without fail I will have one.

My lovely hairdresser gets all my sobs, I’ll be telling her about how I’m epilating now and that she must try it, I really recommend it but before I can finish here come the tears!!!  I’m sobbing over epilating…that is the plucking of hairs out of your legs instead of shaving or waxing and I’m not sobbing because it hurts…I honestly don’t know why I’m sobbing but I am!!!   Or I’ll tell her how I bought my plane ticket to go to my nephew’s wedding…sob, sob, sob…how about the Today’s Special Value on QVC is Purity Facial Cleanser, you must try it…sob, sob, sob…I was watching Dancing with the Stars, sob, sob, sob…did you see that performer on The Voice, sob, sob, sob…you get the picture.

I’m a mess!!!

So if you happen to be speaking with a woman and she’s explaining how peanut butter and jelly is her favorite sandwich but is unable to finish the sentence due to tears…it’s me!!

xo